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Welcome to CN's Fit After Fifty Column by Betty Thomas

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• Essays by ...

~ Tina Chippas ~

~ Rebecca Lutto ~

~ Stanley Shotz ~

 

Essays by 

Tina Chippas

V-J Day

September 2nd

I can never forget the magnificent pealing of the church bells as they echoed through the neighborhood — Brooklyn was a borough of churches and in Bedford-Stuyvesant, we had one on each corner of our block and they were all tolling victory. I pressed my forehead against the window pane, flattening the little flag hanging there, the one with one gold and two blue stars. I watched as neighbors leaned precariously from their windows, banging wooden spoons on pots and ringing dinner bells, school bells or blowing on horns and whistles.

It was September 2, 1945, V-J Day, a day which should have been a happy one but for my family, it was filled with a numbness, a feeling that this day came too late for us. Only five months ago, I had run home from school for lunch. I pressed the button in the marbled vestibule and waited impatiently for the answering buzz. It never came. A neighbor, on his way out, opened the door. He avoided my thanks by ducking out quickly. A knot of neighbors were congregated on the second landing — truly an unusual sight — apartment dwellers nodded and smiled, but rarely spoke to each other.

I was stopped by one of them. "Is it true that your brother was killed?" "No, only wounded; he’ll be home soon," I responded, thinking of my second oldest brother recently wounded in Germany. "She doesn’t know," I heard one of them whisper. "She thinks you’re talking about the middle one."

I took the next flight, two steps at a time, premonition making my heard thump anxiously. "Please, God," I prayed silently, "let everything be all right." I knocked on the stained-glass door of our apartment; my aunt from New Jersey opened the door. Why was she here? It wasn’t a holiday. A second look at her swollen eyes heightened my fears: a terror seized me and I felt rooted to the spot.

Somehow, I entered and was drawn to the unnatural silence in the living room. My mother’s closest friend, Mrs. C., stood uncertainly in the middle of the room, a wadded handkerchief pressed to her nose.

Finally, my eyes rested on what I knew was my mother, but one I didn’t recognize as the same vivacious, impeccably groomed, pretty woman that she was. Collapsed on the overstuffed chair, she was still in her housedress at twelve noon. Head laid back, hair awry, face swollen and drained of all color, she lay motionless — dry sobs coming from somewhere deep within her. My brother John’s photo lay on her lap, his handsome, young face smiled up at her. On the table, next to the chair, was a shot glass filled with brandy and the crumbled telegram.

"What’s wrong?" a voice not at all like mine whispered. I hoped I was in the midst of a nightmare, that this wasn’t really happening. My father gently drew me into the dining room. "John has died," he said quietly. "No!" I cried. I turned and flung my arms around him. He smoothed my hair — the braids he loved. "She’ll be all right," he said, looking at my mother. "She’ll be all right."

So that was five months ago and now it was all over. Now, Peter and James would be coming home like all the other sons and brothers of our cousins and friends. Things would change for sure. My brothers would go into the family business; marriages and babies would brighten our lives. But that was in the future — I didn’t know, at nine years old, that life could be better or worse than it is on any one day that we are feeling joy or sorrow.

I turned away from the window in search of my mother, a newly acquired, anxious habit.

"Let’s go to Mrs. C.’s," she said, avoiding my troubled eyes. She still didn’t look like herself. We walked the short block to the trolley. It was a sunny day, still warm enough for summer, but with the crispness of fall in the air. We walked without talking, aware of the joy around us but not a part of it. Trolleys clanged, cars honked, total strangers embraced, and the bells continued to peal. We boarded an open-sided Nostrand Avenue trolley and sat quietly, looking straight ahead. Other passengers boarded, smiles on their faces, and looked at us expecting similar reactions. Seeing my mother’s black, mourning clothes, their gazes slid uncomfortably away, unwilling to allow their joy to be diminished by another’s pain.

We got off the trolley and walked up St. John’s Place. Scents and aromas floated out store doorways: freshly roasted coffee beans, Italian spices. We didn’t comment on how good they smelled, as we usually did. We climbed the steep flight to Mrs. C.’s apartment. She opened the door — although her son would be coming home, she felt the pain in her friend’s heart. She opened wide her arms and welcomed us in.

 

V-J Day

By Tina Chippas

 

The church bells toll slowly

A joyous day, a grey day,

A day of hope and sorrow.

Dong, dong

A life over,

Yet hardly begun.

A mother’s soul rent in two.

A first-born, so young, so pure

Deep in foreign soil.

Dong, dong

One gold star and two of blue.

So much to give a country

That counts its dead by

Tens of thousands.

Dong, dong

Comforting arms—

Another mother’s love

Salves the wound.

The pain passes.

A scar remains.

Though now silent,

The bells still peal in the child’s memories.


Reality — Really?

I admit it — I’m a Reality Show Junkie. I am fascinated by the competition to excel and survive contrived situations, by the excesses/deficiencies of the real-life cast members and I wonder why. It’s not as if I’m removed from world affairs — I worry about the oil spill and the disastrous effects of a company’s negligence on our environment and wildlife. I’m concerned about the economic crisis in our country and how our children and grandchildren, our country, will survive it. I don’t live vicariously through TV land’s scenes and schemes. I do have other interesting and worthwhile pursuits in life and I live in a condominium building! Why then, do some of these "reality" shows pique my curiosity enough for more than one minute of viewing?

I was mulling this over when a memory from the ’70s surfaced — that of a diminutive, eighty-nine-year-old woman hurrying though N.Y.C.’s Port Authority Terminal. I thought I saw Edna on the bus as we plowed our way through traffic into Manhattan but it wasn’t until I saw her determined progress through the crowded terminal I was sure it was she.

At eighty-nine, Edna, a retired lawyer, still didn’t know what "retired" meant. She advised women’s organizations and supported their progress toward the proverbial "glass ceiling." Edna wasn’t a bra-burning feminist. She believed for women to evolve and compete for good jobs with good pay, creditable educations were pre-requisites and career plans essential. Edna was a role model, as well, for those of us who’d abdicated our careers for motherhood. Widowed in her thirties, with three small children, Edna returned to college and earned her law degree from Columbia University. Retiring at sixty-five, she turned to teaching law and devoting time to women’s shelters helping victims of domestic abuse plan lives outside their scope of what they could become instead of what they had become. That day, she was on her way to the U.N. Building to work for women’s rights on an international basis. Her humanitarian and selfless determination to help others help themselves was exemplary.

On the reality show "Real Housewives of — (city of your choice)," misnomered "housewives" exemplify everything Edna was not. They epitomize self-indulgence with extravagant pursuits extraordinary to our difficult economic times and engineer problematic situations for which they must apologize to aggrieved friends and family. Hardly "housewives" as I knew/know them and certainly not role models for their children or anyone else’s. Qualities once thought as basic and essential to our society — honesty, modesty, discretion, loyalty, to name a few — are ignored. The machinations of their world barely seem plausible let alone "real" and the dichotomy between Edna’s goal to make the world a better place and the housewives’ frenetic ambition to buy more, show more is immeasurable.

Fortunately, there are "real" reality shows. On "Top Chef," products requiring skill and labor are judged by experts, and who can deny the teamwork and love Carlo’s "familia" shares on "Cake Boss." And don’t I wish I had one iota of "Project Runway’s" designers’ creativity as they fashion shapeless material into trendy garments — such talent and determination to excel.

"It’s Me or the Dog" — now that’s a show with positive messages. The spunky Victoria Stillwell tackles unruly canines and their owners. She teaches understanding, patience, and positive reinforcement.


A Furry Tale

I was swept away the first time I visited a dog park. Literally—off my feet, on my back. A new dog park had opened. I thought my daughter’s deranged Min-Pin, Lukie, nee Lucifer, would love the freedom of a park. I have a Princess Poodle. You won’t find this breed listed under A.K.C. Chelsea simply was born into the wrong species—she was meant to be a Princess Human. This red-haired, canine noblewoman likes to be bathed, groomed and walked in landscaped parks. In a flood, it’ll be Lukie, on the roof, barking for the boat to pick him up while Chelsea gracefully poses on the sofa, waiting for a rescuer’s knock on the door.

I knew Chelsea wouldn’t appreciate mingling with the canine commoners, but I was convinced animated Lukie would. The second we entered the parking lot, Chelsea looked at me with dismay. Eight large dogs roamed the enclosure. "You brought me here?" her eyes reproached me. Lukie’s eyes lit up. "Lemme outta here!" he panted. "I gotta get out with them big guys!" (I’ve come to read dog language well.) I could barely restrain him as he tugged to get past the double gates into the grassed pen.

I unleashed him and he tore off, racing toward his new buddies who outsized and outweighed him five times over. Chelsea looked at the mob of bulky creatures as they sniffed Lukie and primly sat down beside me. "Let me know when you want to leave, Lady," she muttered under her breath as she examined her buffed nails. "Not my milieu here." I shrugged. Her choice to mingle or not.

Lukie

Chelsea

At least Lukie was enjoying himself. He was dancing around the big dogs, Gene Kelly without the umbrella or rain. Teasing them—darting away and returning to the posse. "C’mon, ya big sissies. Whatsamatta, can’t run, huh?" His small, muscular body and stubby tail wriggled in anticipation. I thought I saw the German Shepherd raise his brows and nod his head at his comrades. "Voss is das?" he asked. "It’s a Miniature Pinscher, Otto, you know, like a small Doberman," a yellow Lab answered deferentially. "Doberman?" Otto scoffed. "He iss a joke. Ve don’t play mit him. Tell him to go avay." The Lab turned to Lukie who smiled, white teeth glistening. "NAAA NAAA, can’t get me," Lukie taunted. "Big sissies scared?" "Dot’s itt," Otto shook his fur. "Ve go. Men, follow me!"

Lukie got a headstart. He circled, serpentined, streaked, zigzagged across the field leading the furry ribbon of dogs. The pack gained on him. Realizing his tiny stride was no match for his pursuers, he looked for help. Grandma! At full tilt, Lukie ran toward and between my legs. So did Otto. I remember how white and fluffy the clouds seemed as I lay on my back. Owners came to reclaim their giants. We had provided them with a great show.

I limped into my daughter’s house in search of ice for my bruised body. "Did Mommy’s baby have a good time in the doggy park?" Daughter cooed to her dog who bore no evidence of his earlier escapade and seemed eager for his next. "He looks tired," she reproached me as I tied icepacks to my leg and arm. "Maybe the dog park was too much for him. He’s such a timid little guy." Lukie smirked at me. Barely moving his lips he murmured, "It was a blast, Gram—what are we doin’ tomorrow?"


Tina Chippas is a resident of SeaMark Condominiums in North Palm Beach, FL. She has authored an unpublished novel, Affair in Athens, that narrates her grandfather’s heroic sheltering of Salonika Jews during WWII.

Essays by 

Rebecca 

Schlam Lutto

For Love or Money — 

but Not For Muscles

Quiz: What relationship does the new Health Care Law have to the type of fellow your daughter, grand daughter or great–grand daughter might choose to love and/or marry?

The answer, if you believe in such things, lies in the studies done by professors, psychologists and social scientists. Their research shows that women in developed countries with generous government health care, like Belgium and Sweden, are changing the prehistoric Paleolithic preference for he-men and now choose to marry the more gentle and understanding "metro-sexuals."

The same research shows that women in less-developed nations like Mexico and Bulgaria still prefer the strength and masculinity that cave men needed in order to attract cave women.

The scientists tested young women in thirty countries and asked which face in photographs they preferred. (Actually, the two photos were of the same man, but had been changed slightly by computer software, either to "masculinize" the face, or "feminize" it.) Presto! The women’s preference for either kind of man is revealed.

Another victory for evolutionary psychology – another reason why a girl in Mombasa may prefer a gold miner and a model in Paris marries a ballet dancer. They each want the best for their children.

The women in both camps want healthy children, but the women in the poor countries know that health care is primitive or non-existent and pestilence is likely. So they may prefer a hunk, even though in all groups such bruisers are believed to be less interested in child-rearing and more likely to be uncooperative, unsympathetic and more likely to beat them or their children.

The tests did not include economic questions, but it seems reasonable to assume income is a factor. As girls in advanced countries are now likely to have college degrees and high-paying jobs, they no longer need to marry for money – or for at least a livelihood.

Men are more likely than women to have lost jobs in the current recession. That leaves the wife/mother of the family often the sole breadwinner, and the husband at home caring for the children.

Is it possible to find a strong, sexy man, a good earner but also gentle and sympathetic in the same person? The Wall Street Journal quotes Zsa Zsa Gabor on the subject: "I want a man who’s kind and understanding. Is that too much to ask of a millionaire?"


Road Rest Stops — Unneeded or a "Necessary"

The state of Arizona has closed 13 out of 18 of its highway rest stops to save the $300,000 a year it costs to run each one.

Of all the cost-cutting and fee-raising steps that Arizona has taken to close its huge budget gap, this one has raised the most ferocious hue and cry from the citizenry. My guess is that the loudest protest of this deprivation of a facility necessary to everyone — toilets — has come from its many elderly retiree-citizens.

We South Florida retirees know all too well that with every passing year our need for the "necessaries" grow. I notice that here the homes are more likely to have multiple bathrooms than elsewhere.

The problems of scarce facilities in public places is not new, especially in crowded buildings such as theaters. In New York City, with its many legitimate theaters, there are controversies over the fact that men’s and women’s rest rooms are equal in availability, while women need them more. What with tight pantyhose and possibly other unmentionables, women can make a claim for more facilities than men. Various patchwork solutions are now used, such as unisex rest rooms.

The closing of rest stops is not the only restriction on motorists and roads that legislatures have mandated. How about strict driving-while-impaired (drugs and alcohol) laws, the ban on use by drivers of cell phones, computers and televisions? How about being required to wear a seat belt – especially where we live – Florida?

Most driving laws have the purpose of saving lives. What does the rest-stop closings do – require us to wear diapers?

And if this should come to pass, would the late night comedians have, in addition to their usual aged Florida driver jokes, additional fodder, such as this. "Have you been following the story of this female astro-nut? She drove 900 miles from Houston, Texas, to Orlando, Fla., to confront the woman who was her romantic rival. She drove the whole time wearing a diaper so she didn’t have to make a rest stop. She went to court yesterday and was released in her own incontinence."


First Lady Weighs in on Fat Children

After a year as a mere White House hostess and stay-at-home mom, Michelle Obama has chosen her field of "celebrity advocacy."

It is childhood obesity.

Not that she is merely a celebrity, such as a show-biz luminary. She has semi-official clout. When she calls a conference with people who can help her with her cause, the message is not thrown into important waste baskets. The invitation, after all, it is not just to her house, but to the White House – the people’s house.

Ms. Obama did not choose an easy or non-controversial cause, such as Laura Bush’s campaign for literacy (a natural for a former librarian) or Lady Bird Johnson’s beautification of our landscape. Alas, opponents are already hollering "nanny state" and corporations and huge food industry associations are hiring lobbyists.

Parents may also be a source of loud resistance. Some have already complained about notices from school that their children are overweight. Who likes criticism? Especially not overburdened moms and dads.

Happily, the "stamp out child obesity" cause has many supporters and even a happy fiscal ending, according to a Wall Street Journal editorial. This rare Journal approval of Michelle Obama’s program notes that, if successful, this would greatly lower medical costs in the United States. The editorial notes that federal spending due to obesity increases our tax burden by 36 percent for Medicare and 47 percent for Medicaid.

Another mostly non-debatable initiative featured in the First Lady’s plan is her call for increased physical activity by children. Ms. Obama cites the health value of walking or biking to and from school and more playtime and facilities for outside activity both at home and in schools. She advocates safe walkways and crosswalks at intersections so that students can use them safely.

Surely President Obama, tall and lean, sets a good example for his wife’s goals. When President William Howard Taft was inaugurated in 1909 he was 6 feet tall and weighed more than 300 pounds, the largest man to ever serve as president. His First Lady, Helen Herron Taft, did not need to choose a pet project to tout publicly; it was not the custom then.

So Michelle Obama starts off with an advantage, a thin spouse. Could she fight fat as Mrs. Taft? Hardly likely.


For the Love of Pasta

Dear reader, do you remember family mealtimes before 1965 when spaghetti was on the menu?

Those were the dark days when kids in highchairs tried to eat the much-loved Italian delicacy but most of it landed on the child, the chair or the walls.

In 1965 a parent-liberator invented a new toddler-friendly shape of pasta: Spaghetti Os. Donald Goerke, the inventor of the doughnut-shaped version intended for children, died recently at 83. He was a retired marketing manager at Franco-American, a division of the Campbell’s Soup Company.

Goerke’s mission was to design an incarnation of spaghetti that would withstand canning and reheating, and that children could eat without creating a battlefield-like scene in American homes. The shapes that were rejected included baseballs, cowboys, spacemen and stars.

Since 1965 Spaghetti Os have become a standard item in American pantries. More than 150 million cans are sold each year. My guess is that a few million cans are sold to adults who could never learn to twist the original limp strands on a fork, as gourmets do. (Some restaurants give diners who order spaghetti a bib to wear.)

Now that Spaghetti Os and their competitors have saved many a kitchen and dining room, we can go back to thinking of pasta as a food – equally esteemed by both gourmands and nutritionists.

Just as cheese is consecrated as "milk’s leap to immortality," so pasta represents the apotheosis of flour and water. Gourmets and prize-winning chefs will argue eternally about which shape goes with which sauce, but both agree on its adaptability and infinite ability to combine with a thousand other foods to delight eaters.

There are enough shapes and sizes of pasta to fill a small dictionary. Most of the names are in Italian, and describe the shape of the objects outside the kitchen that they resemble. Some examples are macaroni (tubes or cylinders), fusilli (swirls), and lasagna (sheets).

The names may be Italian, but some form of pasta is served worldwide, from Brazil to Hong Kong. In Italian, all pasta names are plural, so let’s get together and tie on our spaghetti bibs. Buon appetito!


Class of 2013 Attire: A Barrel

What will current college freshman (class of 2013) wear? If the recession and business losses continue, quite possibly a barrel held up by suspenders.

According to a recent survey of 297 campuses, this year’s freshmen saw dollar signs in every facet of college choice, career goals and life on campus. Concern for the financial side of a college education was the highest it has been since the Nixon Administration.

Those of us who remember the role of higher education in America before World War II should not be shocked by the survey numbers. In the 1920s college students appeared to be less interested in quantum physics than in football games that they attended wearing raccoon coats and packing flat flacons of bootleg liquor and waving banners touting their college team.

Of course a few "have-nots" managed to earn a degree without a raccoon coat or even a decent roof over their heads. The teenage Ronald Reagan arrived at his college with no money and presented himself to the school’s president, who was impressed by the tall, strapping youth. He arranged for Reagan to sleep in a college out-building and work to pay for his tuition and other expenses.

My impression of the 1930s was of the subway commuters in New York City who were privileged to attend City College or Hunter College with tuition free. Since I lived in the New Jersey boondocks (as my New York relatives called the area), those schools were not available to me.

My route to college was unlike Ronald Reagan’s. I took the statewide exam for high school graduates and did well. This gave me tuition at a state school ($200 for a college year). For room and board, I lived with a family as a babysitter and dishwasher. There was also some salary: one dollar a week for a bus pass.

Reagan and I date from the days of a rough road to college for un-rich kids. Before the GI Bill, before federal grants and many other scholarships – and before college loans that are easy to accept but hell to pay back.

How about some federal aid for repayment of college loans – similar to mortgages?


Politically Correct White House Dining

The White House state dinner for the Prime Minister of India and his wife was a first for the Obama presidency.

It was also remarkable for its size (320 guests), which necessitated that it be held on the White House lawn in a tent.

The menu, which encompassed varied religious, ethnic, political, gastronomic and environmental restrictions and celebrations, can be studied like an ancient parchment.

First, the guests of honor are religious vegetarians. So, although the dinner was meatless, it did include a dish derived from animals: prawns. Prawns are similar to shrimp; both are shellfish.

The Hindu religion forbids the eating of animals. Are shellfish not animals? This religious "definition" reminds me of definitions of foods in the Jewish religion. The eating of shellfish is forbidden in strict Judaism, but fish with fins are permitted.

Another nod to tradition in Jewish food rules is honey. The land of "milk and honey" had few available sweeteners in Biblical times and the science of food chemistry was, of course, unknown. So, assuming that honey was only "housed" by the bees who brought it to the hive from their source in blossoms, the Ancients assumed they were of plant origin.

As a nod to the current rage for kitchen gardens and local farmers’ markets, there was White House arugula and honey at the state dinner. The culinary heritage of the hosts was indicated by chick peas, okra and collard greens.

So, considering the complexity of selecting the foods, the Obama White House cannot be criticized for a few minor slips. While the hosts were concentrating on the religious, bipartisan, diversity and health restrictions of the menu, they can be forgiven for a security boo-boo: allowing a couple of party-crashers in.


Archie Bunker vs 'Sex and the City'

When I heard that Archie Bunker’s armchair had been given the honor of placement in the Smithsonian Institution, my eyes were opened to the importance of popular culture.

Here was Archie, who worked on a loading platform and personified American blue-collar workmen in the television sit-com "All in the Family" raised to historic stature. His chair, which he wouldn’t let anyone else sit on, became a revered icon, because that is what it symbolized to him.

However, appropriate as it was to consecrate Archie’s chair to signify Archie’s status as king of his castle, choosing Carrie Bradshaw’s laptop computer for the Smithsonian seems to me less suitable.

The impression I take away from "Sex and the City" is that of recreational sex in a glittering city, namely New York City’s suave reaches of Manhattan where no one needs to look at price tags or the right side of a menu.

The Smithsonian curator who selected Carrie’s laptop for the museum says, "The laptop is an iconic prop symbolizing Carrie as a chronicler of contemporary society." He justifies Carrie’s historic role by adding, "She represents the latest stage in the progression from Lucy Ricardo and Mary Tyler Moore — and more broadly, the evolution of the role of women in America."

Archie’s chair, dark and threadbare, seems at home in a museum of history. It bears the patina of dust and long use, comfortable in the same repository with the desk on which Thomas Jefferson wrote the Declaration of Independence and Abraham Lincoln’s top hat.

And to represent "Sex and the City," I nominate a pair of Manolo Blahnik shoes.


Essays by Stanley Shotz

It's About Dad

When the phone rings about 2 A.M. you know it can’t be good news. This time it was a neighbor of their dad calling from more than 1000 miles away. They never met her but had heard her name being mentioned many times over the years on the phone. She was frantic! "You better get down here right away and take care of what is going on with your father!" That was a shocking wake up edict in the middle of the night.

Their father had moved to the sunshine state a few years ago with their Mom. It was their retirement dream — the golden years of their lives, to loaf away in the luxury of a beach front condo. It lasted awhile. The dances, the parties, the cruises and the annual too-short visits with the children, when they traveled up north. His wife of 50 years plus passed away after a brief illness and left him with all the good and bad memories and very few friends and family to share them with.

But he was a good sport, and after an extended period of mourning, he joined with his few friends in the life of the singles. The golf and card playing; the early-bird dinners; the movies — he joined in with his few male friends. His apartment was furnished beautifully and he kept the one guest room all neat, unused and ready for any guest that might want to visit for a few days or a few weeks. Seldom did anyone visit however, the telephone seemed to be the best way to keep in touch.

The three sisters and their brother arrived the very next day after the 2 A. M. call. The scene was not to be as it was on their last visit. The place was a mess. Piles of old newspapers, a stack of mail, unwashed dishes and the odor of a closed-up home was what greeted them as they opened the door. Pop was sitting in front of the TV and scarcely realized that his children had come into the room.

It didn’t take much more for them to realize that their father had gotten to the point in life where he could not care for himself and to continue to live alone. As the morning went on, the discussion was entirely focused on what were they to do with him now.

The decision was reached. Dad had to be moved somewhere else that would now become his home. There would be the disposing of the family keepsakes, the packing of his clothes and selling off the condo and the contents. But first things first! What shall we do with Dad? None of the 4 children could accommodate him in their homes. With everyone working, the grandchildren in school and the thought of Dad coming back to the cold winters again in the north; they decided that he needed to be in a nearby facility that was for the elderly and infirm.

So there they were, that same day standing in the offices of the nearby home, with the social worker, listening to the description of what would be available for their father. Everything seemed to be spinning at double speed throughout the entire next few days. Who has the time to dawdle and compare? This was an interruption of their individual routines and all four wanted to conclude this unwanted task as quickly as possible and get back to their personal concerns.

Unknown to them, however, was the fact that they actually were making the best, and no doubt, the proper decision for their father. As the admission clerk described the meals, the recreational offerings and medical care etc. that would be available, they stood stone faced and rigid as they thought about what was to be the end of their precious family circle. It was then that the tears began to flow as, no doubt, each thought of their relationship with their Dad coming to such a sudden, and yet necessary, conclusion. After winding up most of the details of the move over the next few days, the foursome agreed to pay their Dad a parting visit before heading to the airport for their evening flight.

As they entered his room, they saw that the staff had decorated what they had previously viewed as a barren room. On several walls, they had placed a couple of the favorite paintings that Dad had done in the condo art classes.

On the windows, someone had pasted several of the stained glass birds and flowers that Dad had been so proud of, which he too had made at the Condo. On the window ledges were the framed pictures of the whole family which had been part of his former living room decor. On the dresser for him to always enjoy, was that last framed family picture taken on his fiftieth wedding anniversary with Mom and all the children gathered around them. ... But their father was no where to be seen.

Lying on the bed was a colorful folder describing the activities for the residents for that week. It mentioned that, at this hour, something was going on in the Social Hall. They took the elevator back to the lobby floor and went looking for him in the Social Hall. There he was, sitting with dozens of people, playing Bingo. He agreed to have lunch with them in the cafeteria, but couldn’t spend too much time, since he had promised several men to play poker for a few hours. Then he had to make ready for the Sabbath because they held a service in the Chapel on the eve of the Sabbath and Dad volunteered to say some of the blessings and lead in the reciting of the prayers. It was always the highlight of the week when Dad took us to Temple and did that when we were kids.

It was a new life for him! Activities, friends, care and a life with dignity were to continue be his. The relief that came upon them was quite visible on their faces as they went to the airport, to head to different destinations. They pledged to each other that they would visit Dad often in his new home and to call him frequently. He would like that.


Juneteenth — The Unknown Holiday

The signing of the Emancipation Proclamation on January 1,1863 declared "slaves within any State, or designated part of a State ... then in rebellion ... shall be then, thence forward , and forever free." The States affected were enumerated in the proclamation; specifically exempted from the Emancipation, were slaves in parts of the Southern states then held by the Union armies. Previously, about nine months before, on March 13,1862, Lincoln issued orders which forbade Union army officers from returning fugitive slaves. Liberty was thereafter conferred on just over one million blacks. It was then with the enactment of the 13th Amendment to the Constitution in 1865, that slavery was abolished throughout the nation.

On June 19,1865, Maj. General Gordon Granger landed at Galveston and issued a general order declaring the end of slavery in Texas. It had been nearly 30 months since President Abraham Lincoln issued the executive order which had provided for all slaves.

"You see, we’ve been kind of slow down here in Texas", stated one of the residents who is a 3rd generation descendant of East Texas slaves. "As Texans, Juneteenth has always had a special meaning for us," she said. "It’s a pity the day is increasingly losing its significance and has become an inconsequential day marked by partying, food and drink." To her husband, a painter, the success of the Cosby television family represents everything he would like his family to have one day. That’s my ideal and it’s also my dream for my piece of the American dream. For me, Juneteenth is one of those dates in the black experience when I like to take a hard look at where I used to be as against where I’m now."

The general feeling of some native Texans is that the significance of Juneteenth is gradually being lost. It may be happening according to some, because more non-Texas blacks are moving in and it may be happening because memories are fading. The celebration goes on throughout the community as many still celebrate June 19th as a wonderful day in the history of black Texans. One student, studying at Richland College said, "When I first heard of Juneteenth, I wondered what it was all about, but after talking with my friends at school and hearing what my parent had to say, the day now has definite meaning to me."

In some areas of the nation, Dallas and Denver as examples, the celebration has become marred with violence and confrontation with police. The observance first began in black communities of the South, and blacks carried the tradition with them when they moved north and west. The five day festival often ends with a gospel-singing festival and church services. During the five days - food booths, along with official activities and a "country fair" atmosphere, sets the mood of the holiday.

The "Unknown Holiday" continues each year as a segment of America acknowledges each June, of the announcement of their freedom. To the Texas blacks, it is the greatest of their holidays and is far more relevant to them than any of the past developments in Selma, Birmingham or the marches in Washington D.C. The news services across the South recite the stories of individual families and their history of financial and educational progress since those days of the Emancipation.

Stanley Shotz, is an accredited Journalist and resides in Cypress Lakes, West Palm Beach Fla. His articles frequently appear in the Condo News.


The Eggman

"Mom! it’s the Eggman at the door!" That statement was heard every Thursday afternoon in our home. It was the weekly scheduled visit by the man who brought to our door, fresh eggs, butter, chickens and other products from a Jersey farm. This I recall, was the way many families purchased fresh foods from either a friend or relative who was in
business as the sole operator of a Butter and Egg route.

Our Uncle Sam, owned an old Chevy car. He had converted the opening in the back instead of the rumble seat into a small cargo trunk affair. Each Thursday he made his way from North Philly area to a Vineland, New Jersey town and loaded his car with farm products that he bought at less than retail prices.

He then returned to the city and went on his route of people that expected him each week. Our order was usually for a dozen eggs, a fresh killed chicken and a half pound of sweet butter. Sometimes my mother added to the order more eggs if a holiday was approaching. Uncle Sam was the news carrying gossiper of the family as he sat and drank his coffee and told us what was going on with the rest of the clan. When it was time to pay him for the goods, he pulled from his pocket a roll of paper money secured by a rubber band. It appeared to me, that there must have been zillion dollars in his hand earned from his prosperous business. Of course there were weeks that he gave us his wares but left with Mom’s promise to pay him, the next time.

It was through our Eggman that we heard of who was having a baby, who was sick, out of work and who had found a job. These were the depression years and few of the family had a telephone. This was our weekly update on what was the latest news within our family. In later years I learned that most families had a family member or friend that was their Eggman.

When we had family gatherings, a wedding or party of any kind there was always the outstanding, prosperous and probably the only car owner that was the Eggman of the crowd. He was the one that was at ease with everyone and smoked the big cigar and he tipped all the people that served him. The men gathered around him and heard of his great exploits and business smarts. He was in every ones opinion the most successful of the family and surely the only one with steady income. As youngsters, he represented to us, in depression days, a business leader of our community.

Since this personal farm service has disappeared from our routine in favor of the big community super markets we are left with the memories of those pioneers of self employment opportunities. The tittle of "Big Butter and Eggman" is often heard around the condo pools. This is a title that is whispered among the listeners of the "big shot" who considers himself to be the leading person of the group presently gathered. You know the type, he has bought it, owned it, seen it, been there and has it. We have
to take his word for it! After all, he regards himself as today’s - Big Butter and Eggman.


Those Good Ole Days

Yes indeed! I was one of the sharpest kids on the block. Why you just couldn’t "hangout" with the gang unless you had wheels. Now you already have the impressions that we all owned a "hot-rod" or "hard-top" or even better, a convertible. Hey No ! That isn’t what we called wheels!

I am going to describe to you my generation’s means of moving around the neighborhood.

We had to have a "Skatemobile," and for your enlightenment this is how you put together a 1932 model of that now defunct vehicle which has gone the way of the Hupmobile and the Henry J and then too, the powerhouse Hudson.

The most important part to obtain was one real ball bearing Chicago brand roller skate, no substitutions and no off-brands would be acceptable by the crowd. With your skate key you could separate the front wheels from the back part and have two sections. You then looked down in the cellar of your house and you could usually locate a piece off the back fence that was supposed to end up as kindling in the furnace on a cold morning. This three inch wide board had to be about three feet long and about one inch thick.

This would become the chassis of your vehicle and on each end you securely nailed a section of that roller skate I mentioned. For all appearances, today this would have been called a "skateboard", but it was much longer and still had some details to be added. On the end you wanted to designate for the "front end", you had to nail a wooden box , the kind your grocery had left over from a shipment of apples. The real neat and sharp guys, ( I was one of them) used a discarded orange crate. This provided a ready made shelf when it was attached in a vertical position. Wow! When those guys went to the store to get the newspaper or a 10-cent loaf of bread, they were able to put it on the shelf instead of holding it in their hand. This left one hand for holding onto the box and the other was free for waving at the guys.

You could put one foot on the board and by holding onto the box and then pushing with the other foot, get down to the corner in half the time it would take to walk. After getting up some speed you could place the pushing leg on the board, too. Just the same way kids on the skateboards do it now, you were a real classy mover.

It got so, at times, you couldn’t find a place to park your Skatemobile in front of the candy store (later called cigar stores) and it was especially rough after school hours and on Saturdays after the movies let out.

Some of the guys were allowed out after dark, maybe their parents didn’t nag them to stay in and do their homework. You could spot their Skatemobiles real easy; they had taken a tin can from a trash barrel; and it was nailed onto its side on top of the apple or orange crate. Inside the can was a candle and when they lit it after dark, it illuminated the street so that they could see where they were going (it really didn’t light up anything). However, it showed us who the kids were that were allowed to use matches. I was not able to install that "option ", since I was not allowed to light matches or mess with fires. I used to be able to, but that was before I set our house on South 3rd Street on fire back in 1928 while hunting around our dark basement for some toys -- with a lit candle.

I have real wheels now, well, in fact, everyone on this block has one or even two of them. The styles have changed, but you still can’t seem to find a place to park it anyplace when the movies let out on Saturdays.


Two For a Penny

Asking around these days, of men that are now senior citizens, of the source of their income during the depression days becomes a sad recollection for most. Allowances were just a few nickels a week and were supposed to be enough for lunch in the school cafeteria.

Some describe their earning a few coins by running errands for neighbors and of course some delivered newspapers and cut lawns and in winter shoveled sidewalks. A few had the opportunity of working in their Dad’s store or shop. I too needed to fund my own expenses and I became a businessman at the age of thirteen. Mom, my older brother and I lived during that time in an apartment, a scant two blocks from one of the subway stations in our city.

Late every afternoon, hundreds of workers from center city came rushing through the turnstiles when they exited the subway at that subway station. To me it was an opportunity to sell something to the throngs as they rushed home from a long day at work.

I went to a wholesale candy store a few blocks away and purchased a large box containing one hundred and twenty small Hershey bars. The box cost me 30 cents and I figured I could sell them at 2 for a penny.

I stood at the turnstile each afternoon from 4 to 6pm since my school let out at 3:30 pm. Soon I began to hop on the subway cars and I rode for several stops. Roaming though each car selling the passengers a welcome treat and then I returned to my local station.

Having made friends with the lady cashiers at that station enabled me to have free rides on the trains every day. In fact, they even had me come by their homes on weekends for lunch.

This went on for about two years and we then moved away from the subway station and that lucrative business opportunity.


Reflections

As we stand at the threshold of a new year, the will of people and nations for peace and freedom seems to have no limits.

And as the year 2009 passed, it brought us a world whose face, and whose governments and whose politics were changing; but as they did, we witnessed the possibility of confrontation and the realization that mistrust and aggression are still with us. This realization hit hard, as once again in our lifetime American men and women are being pressed into service for the cause of justice.

Our prayers are with them at this time. The never ending strife in the Middle East, our war with Iraq and the election of the first Afro-American in the history of the United States of America will find their place in our memories of the year 2009.

With only a short period into the 21st century, it is remarkable to think of how timeless and unchanging humanity’s most cherished ideas have been. The desire for peace, kindness and freedom bind us together with people everywhere for we share the same concern for our time and the same visions of a future with nations across the world as we look for a life without strife.

So, as we go into this new year 2010 and this new season, let us celebrate the spirit of peace and take solace in the fact that we are joined by so many around the world. If we as nations, and people, each make peace within our hearts, peace and understanding on earth may be at hand.

The Holy Donut

By Stanley Shotz

How did depression kids manage to get along during those "good old days?" Few are around today to tell of some of their experiences of 75 years ago. They were the years from about 1930 and into 1940 that brought changes into almost every home in our town. For most people, there was the need to move into different homes and acquire different life-styles from what we had become accustomed to as youngsters. I, for one, moved with my mother and older brother to a small apartment from a 3 bedroom house. My little sister moved in with our grandmother a few blocks away.

During the afternoon, I delivered a paper route six days a week. The evenings were taken up with homework, and it was Friday nights and Saturdays that gave me the freedom to hang out with the guys.

Our "hangout headquarters" was in front of the corner candy store just next door from our place. If you were lucky, you could earn a few nickels by going to someone’s home nearby when they were called to answer a call on the public phone in the store. They had to give you a tip or they wouldn’t be called in the future if they were stingy and left you empty handed. It could rain, sleet and snow, but we were there to make small talk and resolve all the problems facing the world. The owner of the store was always hoping that we would come in and spend a few cents. For that reason, we were seldom chased away, and then too, the person called to the phone might buy some small item while in the store, to show their appreciation for getting called.

Saturday night was something special for us poor kids on the corner, for we would be huddled in the cold weather, stomping our feet, but too lonely to just go home. This was before the days of TV. At the next corner was a missionary store. It was just a regular 2 story house with store front windows that were covered with curtains. The family lived in the back of the house and on the second floor. The first floor area had rows of wooden folding chairs arranged with a center aisle.

As I recall, there was seating for about 30 people. At the furthest end of the store was an elevated platform and rostrum. In the rear of the place was a kitchen with stove and sink. Hanging on the wall behind the platform was a wooden cross and a large picture of Jesus.

About 8 PM on Saturday night, some of the poor in the neighborhood drifted in along with the bunch of fellows that I was hanging out with on the next corner. We all sat and got warm during the one hour sermon. It was a relief to get into a place that was heated and provided a bathroom and refreshments. Finally, prayer and eventually the singing portion for the service ended. On a table at the side of the podium was a large table and on it a plate with donuts piled on it. All through the service I stared at the donuts for they represented the only delicacy that I would have all week. The smell of hot coffee began to permeate the room and we became restless as the hour seemed to drag on and on.

Finally, the preacher’s wife would enter the room carrying a large pot of hot coffee. It seemed like forever that we finally came to the closing prayer. The minister talked on and on, while we sat and stared at the donuts on the table. We finally were able to rush to the table in the room and we all reached out to grab the day-old donuts that was the reward for our listening to the Gospel. The minister each week was able to get those stale donuts from the local bakery at little or no cost. The fact that they were a little harder than fresh and all the same type did not lessen their appeal to us kids and adults alike.

The coffee was strong, no milk and no sugar was served, but that donut was a gift from heaven for those of us that had the patience to wait. It made no difference to many of us who were of different religions. The donut and warmth of the room were ample compensation for the hour of listening. I returned week after week, for the donut.


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